We all know that going to a nightclub can be an especially daunting place to pickup Asian women, with all the noise, the crowd and the business of the participants. The truth is that most women in general don’t go to clubs to meet men. Still, many men go to clubs to meet women. Pay close attention.
1 Get there early. If you get there too late, most people have already oozed into groups, thus making them more difficult to open.
2 Begin conversations with people on the ticket/line-up. One method is to ask to “make sure” you are at the right event.
3 Once you enter the club, make eye contact with the first woman there. Once again, “is this DJ/Artist performing tonight” or “is this the right event?” are harmless openings that will work. If she’s by the door, there is a high probability that she has just arrived and is available to talk to.
4 Remember when you meet someone new, ask if she’s there alone or with friends. Always ask to meet her friends. Most likely she’ll be happy to introduce. Women do tend to prefer the group dynamic in the club setting.
5 Once you learn names, and a few minutes of chit chat, move on. This shows them that you are there not just for them, and there are likely other prospects for you in the area. You don’t come off as desperate and can come back to them later as someone they already know.
6 After moving away, you should to memorize or write down the names you learned for later.
7 Whatever you do, DON’T BE A WALLFLOWER. Guys who stand against the wall looking longingly at the women get pigeonholed as a typical desperate one they like to avoid. This cannot be stressed enough. If you get stuck in such a position, move from it to another vantage point every few minutes before getting another prospect going.
8 If you feel like resting, find a seat away from the crowd.
9 Look like you have a purpose: Bring a camera, explore the place, check out the bathroom, buy a drink, get a napkin. Have a look of Destination on your face. What does this look like? Simple: Just take a look at the busy-looking women as they go from place to place on some seemingly crucial mission.
10 You might see people you know, go over to them. They may end up introducing you to more people.
11 Talk to bouncers and security people. This makes you look important. These people are often bored and will be happy to talk to you.
12 Bring an entourage. It makes you attractive if you are part of a group.
13 If possible, come with a “wing-woman.” A wing-woman is an attractive woman who is only a friend. This also makes you more desirable and attractive.
14 Find someone to dance with. For this, an older or less attractive woman is ideal. They will be happy to dance with you and you will attract the attention of the young and pretty ones who are wondering why you chose this one as opposed to them. When the dance is over, compliment your partner and excuse yourself, then approach any one of the cute ones who will now be looking at you!
15 Don’t be shy, talk to female wallflowers. They are open to meeting someone. Even if she is older or less attractive, engage them in conversation. This will make the cute ones wondering (same as 14).
16 Walk around with a big cool looking drink. This will get you attention. Ask the bartender for a recommendation on this.
17 Go outside. They stamp your hand so you might as well use it. Outside there is less competition and a it’s less crowded and you can occasionally find a lone woman taking a break or a smoke.
18 Instead of asking for a phone number, ask for a business card. If she says she doesn’t have one, ask if she has email.
19 Don’t be satisfied with one email or phone number, even if you think she is the “woman of your dreams.” Most women will not return a phone call from a guy she met at a club.
20 Make sure to circle around back to the women you met at the beginning. At this point, after missing you, they will be more open to talk.
21 The next day, email all the women. Give them some sort of way for them to remember who you are, and give them your phone number and tell them when you will be available.
22 Remember that the first words are the most important. Try to make them funny
23 Keep the conversation focused on her. Concentrate on what the girl is saying and keep an open mind. Steer the conversation in such a way that you are genuinely interested; if you are having a good time, she will feel this energy and thus, “good chemistry.”
24 When speaking to an attractive prospect do not seem too eager or over complimentary. Be funny, and above all, aim to amuse yourself and just have a good time. Don’t be afraid to tease her sometimes, such as saying “you’ll make an awesome ex for me one day.” This shows fearlessness and higher status than her own status, which is what women are attracted to.