The Pickup Artist’s Gym Pickup
This is the gym pickup, it is time to stop hesitating. Get ready for the Player’s Pickup. Grab your gear and grab your water bottle; the real workout has just begun.
Stage 1: Exploration (2nd Recon)
The Player says that, while it’s easy to just focus on a woman’s body, learn her body language instead. Pay attention to how she stands, how she interacts with others and how she moves with her music. Observe how self-conscious she may appear and how much chatter she engages in. Discerning her level of comfort will let you know how approachable she is when you see her walk in. When you see her relaxing and comfortable, move in and be the face she is used to seeing around.
Be sure to use the first two days to establish a solid foundation of non-threat. She may suspect you’re interested, but it should never be painfully obvious. You are a Player (albeit, learning) and your method is based on skill and a touch of subterfuge (smoothness, not lies). Rather than go in for the instant conversation, fall back on confident eye contact, a smile and “Hello.” Then seeming mind your own workout.
Stage 2: Establish Contact (3rd Recon)
With eye contact in place and her body language showinwg she’s comfortable, it is time to make the move. Do not appear hesitant or unsure. Before you move, however, do a quick hygiene check to make sure you are as good as you know you can be.
Get a feel for how social she is by asking her opinion on a machine she is using. Even go as far to request a spot for yourself. If she opens up in full conversation, you have an opening. If she gives you one-word answers, take this reading seriously as a back-off.
When she is working out with you, DO NOT hover while she does her sets. Move on to something else while she’s doing her exercises. This shows an impersonal approach and it takes you out of the obvious pickup category.
Stage 3: The Icebreaker (4th Recon)
Now its time to begin to move things in a more personal direction. Become friendlier and employ your charm and icebreaking skills for good conversation. Use one of the following to help you start (tried and tested)
Offer to fill her water bottle: This will invoke her smile and she’ll appreciate the offer. This will also lead to the verbal or nonverbal invitation for you to stick around.
Bring her a glass of water and say: “You look like you can use this.” With the right amount of charm, she may even invite you to train with her.
Stage 4: Trust Establishment (2-3 weeks)
Take note: if she works out at the same time every day and makes a point to walk by you during your workout, you now have some interest building. She is more than likely finding you interesting and is now awaiting another enjoyable encounter with you.
Develop your friendship during this stage. Read her and listen to her to determine if she’s available. Sincerely earn her trust, but do not get too personal as this can cement you in the harmless “good friend” category. Talk about exercise and also about things outside of your shared environment (the gym). Discuss friends, school, work, etc.; however, keep the conversation on issues of being fit/healthy/in shape so your intentions don’t reveal themselves too early on.
Stage 5: The Invitation
So, you have built a rapport, now go for the invitation out. Include her and her friends out for a drink of coffee. Be confident and lead off with: “Hey, I’d like you and your friends to meet me out for coffee this week. How’s Thursday?”
When (not if) you pick up the sexy gym bunny, don’t kiss and tell. You’re a Pickup Artist and a Gentleman. Plus, if things do not work out, keeping your romantic details between each other will make a breakup easier, more amicable and keep your reputation rock solid.
Still think this is too much work and time invested? You won’t feel this way when you have established a solid foundation with the women at the gym. You will have a base of potential pickups or potential hookups with their friends.
Moving too fast will lead to a Player crash and burn, and you’ll see your lovely mistake every time you go to work out.
The key to avoiding humiliation is basically time. Noted Author Charles Caleb Colton spoke of dedication when he said: “Much may be done in those little shreds and patches of time which every day produces, and which most men throw away.”
In your case, you just want to be a Pickup Artist. So put in the effort, do the workout, get the girl, and don’t hate your new found skills.